Hello Housemates!

I hope you are all well, happy, and rested! I hope you’re bright-eyed and bushy-tailed! I’ve been traveling and I am tired. I started bouncing all over the place at 12:30 am. I thought I was falling asleep. I thought I was going to start my day at 5:30 am, but no. I tossed and turned. I tried to be still…

oooh, look at the shapes and shadows on the wall.

Has the ceiling always looked like that?

I was dancing on that thin line between, either I am staying up all night, or my head is going to hit the pillow like a sack of rocks. My eyes were too tired to read, but not so tired that they were determined to stay closed.

And so, the game began. One might say, “That sounds like insomnia,” but then there’s that other thing that happens. That thing that is not sleeping, not dreaming, that thing that turns me into a flopping fish. That thing that turns me into a humble migrator in my home searching for refuge and solace on something not too soft, but firm enough to lull me to sleep.

From the couch to the bed, from the bed to the couch. Head of the bed to the foot of the bed. There is no distinction between the two for me. Wherever I can catch sleep is where sleep catches me.

I dozed off, but my rest was short-lived, and that was the pattern for the night.

Dozing off. Random body movements.

Do I need to see a doctor?

Is everything ok?

I confirm that I am ok.

I doze off again.

No, I don’t have sleep apnea. Back to sleep, I went.

At some point, my eyes popped open, and I thought to myself, trauma hurts.

No shit! Of course, trauma hurts.

What I have learned in my studies, is that trauma will always take up residence in your physical body. It will always find a way to hide there. A visceral reminder of your past. A looming presence of something that you wished never happened. That scarred you deeply. That you hoped would stay buried in your subconscious mind. You may have even created a room for your trauma. You probably decorated it with nice things, bought the softest pillows and cushions, anything to keep it locked away and hidden, but your subconscious knew better. It knew that you were sent here to heal certain things, so while you were creating this room it was busy.

While you were hanging paintings on the wall, it was hiding your trauma in your body. In some cases, it is obvious where trauma lives in your body, but in some cases, it's not.

We can only bury our hurt for so long. We can only seek solace in our vices, but for so long, until that thing that wants to be healed manifests in our body. It could be a word, a visual stimulus, it could happen while receiving a massage, or a reiki treatment. One minute you are dozing off, relaxed, comfortable, and hovering between that state of sleep and wakefulness. The parasympathetic state. The rest and digest state. It is a healing state.

When you are in a parasympathetic state, you breathe calmly, and you are at peace. You may hear yourself snoring yet you are aware of everything going on around you. You may feel like you’re falling or even melting into whatever structure is supporting you. The parasympathetic state is where my trauma finds me. It is in this state that deep healing can take place. It is in this space where I am most willing to feel trauma leaving my body. It is in this space where my best ideas come to me.

I believe that feeling trauma leaving the body physically is important. It doesn’t always feel nice, but anything that has taken up residence in you physically needs to be felt when coming out. This is where healing takes place. This is where you gain an understanding of the trauma, and how it entered your body in the first place. This is where you resolve to continue to heal or ignore it and live with the dis-ease.

The choice to heal is always up to you. No matter how painful it is, I sincerely hope that you always chose to heal. It is what you came here to do and no one can do it better than you.

Hello, My Wonderful Housemates!

Before we move forward I need you to sit up. I need you to breathe and sit the fuck up.

How you hold your body is important. The slumping, and rounded shoulders of a curved back almost broken, yielding to the pressures of life-Don’t do that.

Don’t slump

Sit up straight

Pull your shoulders back

Lift the girls up

Chest out

Head up

Set your eyes on the horizon.

It is the only destination that matters.

Your posture is important. It nonverbally communicates what you are experiencing internally.

What is your posture telling the world?

Is it saying I’m a bad mothafucka don’t mess with me?

Is it telling the world that your back is a welcome mat?

The truth is if you want to get any “joy” out of what you are feeling, your body will take on the full expression of that emotion or state of being.

Sit up

Head up

Chest out

Your body is built to look towards the horizon.

No human being walks around with their head down unless there is something physically wrong, or it is by choice.

How far will you get if your eyes are focused on the ground?

How long can you walk forward with your head turned in another direction?

What is behind you is behind you, and the only way to see it is if you look back.

Sit up

Head up



Tell yourself, “I’ve got this! I’m a bad mothafucka!” Even if you don’t believe it, declare it. Make sure your posture matches the declaration.

Your mind is powerful and believes what you tell it.

“As a man thinketh, so is he.”

Don’t allow yourself to linger in negative and unhelpful thoughts. We are human. Yes, we need to allow ourselves to experience our emotions, but try not to stay there too long. If you want to linger in your emotions than linger in absolute joy. Lounge in your happiness and remember the posture of it.

Whatever you are going through you will see yourself on the other side of it. Sometimes we have to walk into a dark room without a flashlight. You will fumble. You will stub a toe. You will walk into sharp objects. As long as you are committed to the process, you will see the other side of it stronger, healthier, and wiser.

I know. I turned into a freaking drill sergeant today.

Isn’t every Virgo?

Aren’t we always telling people what they need to do?

I like to think of it as a strong suggestion.

Why do I even care?

Why am I experiencing a sensation of pure bliss?

Why am I smiling while I write this?

The thought of you standing in your strength, the thought of you moving through the world knowing that you are a pure expression of the Divine fills my heart with absolute joy.

Many of us have come from and lived through so many things, with no help, and no one to share our experiences with.

Isn’t it nice to finally be in good company?

Hello, My Beautiful Housemates.

Today, I need you to breathe. I am going to say it again.

Today, I need you to breathe.

I need you to stop and breathe.

I need you to sit down and breathe.

I need you to breathe.

Be grateful for the oxygen that enters your lungs and helps the cells in your body produce energy. I need you to breathe with an inner knowing that your breath is life. Your heart can beat outside of your body, but without oxygen, you will die.

Today we breathe. With everything that is going on in the world today, it is important that we breathe. It is important that we check in with our breath.

Today we will meditate on our breath. While you’re reading this take notice of your breath, without judgment, just notice it. Bring your full attention to it.

How are you breathing?

Is your breathing centered in your chest or your abdomen (belly)?

Is your breathing shallow, or is it deep?

Are you inhaling and exhaling for the same length of time?

Time your inhale and compare it with the length of time of your exhale.

Are you observing the four stages of breathing?

Remember. We are observing without judgment. If you want to know if you’re breathing correctly, look at a child. Specifically an infant or a toddler. Watching infants and toddlers is a great practice because they are in their bodies.

When children breathe, their chests rise, and their abdomens expand when they inhale. When they exhale their chests go down and their abdomens relax or contract. If you’ve ever taken yoga classes, or if you are a singer you may have heard the term ‘diaphragmatic breathing,” or the say breathe from your diaphragm. This is nothing new. It is something we may be trained to forget, but breathing from your diaphragm is the most healthy and comfortable way to breathe.

Without getting too technical (says the Virgo in The House), your diaphragm is the primary muscle of breathing. It’s shaped like a dome or parachute, and when you are breathing properly it does some very wonderful things for your body.

First, there is a tendon. It is called the “central tendon,” and it connects your diaphragm to your lungs and your heart. There are also three holes or openings in your diaphragm. Oh yes, I am fucking geeking out. Please bear with me. Breathe.

Your diaphragm separates your chest cavity from your abdominal cavity (this is where many of your vital organs live). Breathe. I know this isn’t a fucking science class. What the hell?

When you breathe properly, when you inhale the chest cavity should rise, and the abdomen should expand. When you exhale the chest should fall, and the abdomen should contract or come back to its original size. If you want to get the full benefit of exhaling focus on pulling your belly button towards your spine.

Breathe in through your nose until you feel like your chest and abdomen are filled with all of the oxygen surrounding you.

Breathe out through your nose letting your chest fall and allowing your abdomen to come back to its resting position.

Keep breathing. First concentrating on inhaling and exhaling properly. Keep breathing and bring your awareness to the length of your breaths so they are in time with each other. Keep breathing.

Inhaling what you need, and exhaling letting go of the tension and stress of the day.

Keep breathing and feel your body relaxing. Keep breathing. The expansion and contraction of your abdomen offer your vital organs a beautiful internal massage.

Keep breathing because the three holes in your diaphragm allow for major arteries and veins to pass through them. If this muscle is unhappy it will affect the way blood travels through your body. You may even be causing yourself undue stress and feelings of anxiety, so breathe.

Let those feel-good hormones settle you into your chair, into your body. Breathe and notice the two moments of pause or silence that happen after you inhale and exhale. Breathe and let yourself sink deeper into yourself giving thanks for this simple, important function of your body called breathing.

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